A Second Chance at Love: The Beginners Guide to Widowed Dating

This week on Wake the F*** Up, Alix and David sit down with Abel Keough, a remarried widower who has successfully helped thousands of women know if the widowers they’re dating are ready for a serious relationship. Before we dive in to the rest of the episode, we want to give a content warning that this episode contains discussions about suicide as well as infant loss; topics which may be triggering to some of our listeners. Feel free to skip this episode if you need to, or come back when you’re ready.

To kick off the conversation, Abel shares his personal experience as a remarried widower and discusses his work in helping women navigate relationships with widowers. He has written several books, including “The Wife in the Next Life” and “The Ultimate Dating Guide for Widowers,” and hosts a YouTube channel (@DatingaWidower) full of helpful resources for the widower community, many of which have resonated with Alix. The three move on to discuss the challenges faced by young widowers, the lack of resources available to them, and the importance of setting boundaries with friends and family during the grieving process.

Later in the podcast, Abel shares his story of losing his pregnant wife to suicide and navigating life after her death. He talks about finding support systems that are understanding and helpful, as well as finding ways to cope with grief such as running or journaling. The conversation also touches on topics like loneliness in grief, shame around suicide deaths, redefining relationships after loss, and starting to date again. Abel emphasizes that there is no specific timeline for when someone should start dating again but cautions against getting into serious relationships too quickly before being emotionally ready. He also advises open communication about dating with family members in order to avoid feelings of betrayal or mistrust later on. Alix and David can relate! Both hosts share their own experiences with anger towards their late spouses and discuss how they worked through it over time.

Abel is the author of four dating guides, a memoir about losing his late wife to suicide and falling in love again, and co-author of a book with his wife, Julianna, about the struggles and questions they had to overcome to take their relationship from dating to marriage. His Dating a Widower YouTube channel contains over 200 videos and valuable advice for widowers and the women who are dating or married to them.

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Suicide prevention resources:

• If you’re thinking about suicide, are worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, the 988 Lifeline network is available 24/7 across the United States.
• Call or text 988 to get help. The 988 Lifeline is available for everyone, is free, and confidential. Or visit https://988lifeline.org/ for more resources.
• Visit the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention website to find a local chapter, get immediate help, or find resources for survivors of suicide loss.
• Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Other resources mentioned in this episode:‍

• Learn more about Abel at www.abelkeogh.com - From there you can find links to his books, YouTube channel, social media, and more.
• Follow WAKE on Instagram: @thewakewellness
• Follow Alix on Instagram: @alixlongwinded
• Follow Grace Pilates and Yoga on Instagram: @choosegracenola

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